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Emotion Regulation

Emotion Regulation strategies are an important aspect of navigating the world as a neurodivergent person.  The PDF here provides strategies that may be helpful, both for a foundational understanding and actionable strategies for emotion regulation. 

Why This Information Is Important

Addresses a Common and Impactful Challenge

  • Emotional dysregulation is frequently experienced by neurodivergent individuals and is linked to a wide range of mental health conditions, including anxiety and depression.

  • Understanding emotional dysregulation helps individuals and their support networks recognize why certain behaviours occur and why traditional approaches may not always be effective


Promotes Neurodiversity-Affirming Approaches

  • The PDF emphasizes strategies that affirm neurodiversity, recognizing that neurodivergent brains process emotions and sensory input differently. This is crucial because many interventions and medications are designed for neurotypical individuals and may not be as effective—or could even be harmful—for neurodivergent people.

  • For example, stimming is reframed as a valid and helpful self-regulation tool, rather than something to be suppressed.

 

Provides Practical, Evidence-Based Strategies

  • The PDF offers a variety of actionable strategies (e.g., movement-based, breathing, sensory grounding, writing, mental, and self-compassion techniques) that can be practiced and tailored to individual needs.

  • These strategies are supported by research and are shown to improve coping skills, reduce anxiety and depression, and enhance emotional regulation.

  • Example: Sensory grounding exercises (like naming things you can see, touch, hear, smell, and taste) can be used in moments of distress to bring focus and calm.

 

Empowers Self-Awareness and Self-Compassion

  • Tools such as the feelings wheel and self-assessment questionnaires help individuals better identify, label, and understand their emotions, which is the first step toward effective regulation.

  • Self-compassion exercises encourage a kinder, more understanding relationship with oneself, reducing self-criticism and isolation.

 

Improves Daily Functioning and Quality of Life

  • By learning and practicing these strategies, individuals can better manage stress, adapt to changes, and maintain healthier relationships.

  • Example: Practicing progressive muscle relaxation or creative expression can help complete the stress cycle and restore a sense of safety and calm.

Videos, audio files, and pictures are provided below to supplement the PDF 

The Pretzel

Helpful for times you may experience high stress

  1. Extend your arms out in front of you with
    palms facing each other

  2. Rotate your arms so that the backs of your hands are touching, and your thumbs are pointing down

  3. Lift your dominant hand over top of the other hand so the palms are facing each other once again (arms should be slightly twisted)

  4. Interlock your fingers

  5. Bend your arms down towards your belly and pull them up through so that they are resting on your chest (Your arms should make a pretzel shape)

  6. Keep hands resting on chest and close your eyes and slow breath (3 – 5 breathing described below)​ or combine with interlocking hands

See video for demonstration 

Guided Box Breathing

Box breathing has 4 steps: 

1. Breath in through your nose for a count of 4 
2. Hold the air in your lungs for a count of 4
3. Breathe out of your mouth for a count of 4
4. Wait for a count of 4

Repeat at least 4 times or as many as needed 

 

Visualization from @360Calm

Progressive Muscle Relaxation

Click play for an audio recording of a
guided progressive muscle relaxation


Guide: Lori Sacrey

Text: From therapistaid.com

Accompanying music by Bach

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3 - 5 Breathing

​Helpful for times you may experience stress 

  1. Place one hand on your upper chest and the other on your belly button. 

  2. Inhale through your stomach to a count of 3 in your mind, letting it inflate. Allow your chest to remain still.  

  3. Exhale through your mouth to a count of 5 in your mind, feeling your stomach deflate. Again, allow your chest to remain still. 

  4. Repeat this three times

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Cognitive-Based Strategies You Can Try

Positive Reframing

 

Focus on the negative thoughts and feelings and ask yourself two questions:

  1. What are advantages or benefits of this negative thought or feeling?

  2. What does this negative thought or feeling say about me and my core values that's beautiful, positive, or even awesome?

Example: "I worry that clients won’t like me"

Benefits of this thought: I care what people think of my ability as a clinician and this thought shows that doing a good job is very important to me.

 

The thought is trying to motivate me to continue to do a good job!  Remember that our thoughts are trying to support us and motivate us to be the best versions of ourselves.

 

They just do a really bad job of it – like they got the cheer all backwards and mixed up.

 

When we tell ourselves that we are going to fail, those thoughts are really trying to cheer us on so that we won’t fail, but they are all upside down.

 

Try to think of what the cheer is trying to say, because they represent our deepest values.

 

Example: "I am going to fail."

 

This is really saying that you care a lot about doing a good job and try your best to achieve your goals.

Adapted from David Burns, MD

Emotional Reasoning

 

When you assume your emotions reflect the way things really are.

 

“I feel like I am a bad employee, so I must be a bad employee”.

It’s important to remember that feelings are NOT facts and just because you feel a certain way does not mean that that is a true representation of the situation. Be mindful to separate feelings from facts when evaluating a situation.

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